Loss Doesn’t Go Away

Two weeks. Two weeks is like that magic amount of time where the help comes pouring in, the texts keep you going, the sweet sentiments keep you smiling. After that two week point, things start slowing down big time. It’s not that friends and family don’t care anymore, but people get busy with their own lives, and once that happens, things start really sinking in. Reality hits, and you are left feeling empty and going through another stage in the grieving process. 

When we had our first miscarriage I hated when people would reach out and ask, “how are you doing?” I wanted to reach through the phone and smack them, like how do you think I’m doing!? I just lost a baby and I wanted to be holding that baby in a few months. Through this journey I’ve realized that going through a loss, or 5, is an extremely hard thing. Not just for the people involved, but also the friends and family that love and support you. 

When someone reaches out, they just want to be there. They may not always know the words to say, so have grace. Understand that if someone is reaching out, their intention is not to hurt you, but to be there for you and to support you through the hard times. 

And for the friend of someone grieving, reach out! Don’t be afraid of saying something stupid. A simple, I love you or you’re in my prayers, can go a long ways! Even months or years down the road, if someone is put on your heart, reach out. That loss will forever be with someone, so reach out, at any time.